Hey you! Yes, you! You are beautiful. You are handsome. You have an entire unique world within you. Bring it out. Let the fire in your eyes burn. Believe in yourself. Because I do. And when you do, the rest of the world will follow suit.”
Self confidence is something many lack. The reason for the same? Unnecessary comments from friends and family that date back to childhood. Yes! Lack of confidence for many, commences from childhood. They are deep rooted and it becomes all the more difficult to uproot them when the scars are old.
Let’s face it. We all feel low when someone indicates through their words and actions that we don’t look good. This mostly happens with people who have a tendency to put on weight, people who are too thin, short or those who are dusky. When the unnecessary comments increase, we begin to doubt ourselves.
Am I too fat? Does that dress look dull on me?
Should I go for this event?
What if they mock me again?
Stop right there! If you begin to doubt yourself, the commentators will increase, so will your doubts. Your confidence level will go further down, making your life miserable. No Superheroes will come to your rescue. You are your own Super hero. Start now! Stop this mess and hit the boost button. Here is how you do it.
∴ Let us start right from the beginning
Step 1: Stop measuring beauty from others’ point of view.
Step 2: Accept & Believe that you are beautiful, just the way you are.
Step 3: DO NOT let anyone else ruin that for you.
The transformation did not happen overnight. It took me years. It began with believing in myself.
∴ Boost your self-confidence:
Here are some don’ts that you could use, listed originally here.
- Asking others for approval – “Am I looking fat?”, whether it is to hear a ‘No’ from a person or whether it is a genuine question, you are giving the permission to someone else to assess you. If you feel that you are fat and want to reduce, do what is necessary. If not, leave it. But do not place your self confidence in someone else’s hands.
- Putting Yourself Down – “It wouldn’t suit me. I’m fat/thin/dusky” When you say this repeatedly to someone, whether you are fat or not, your belief becomes their belief. Later on, there is no point complaining when they comment on your looks.
- Agreeing With Someone Who Comments on You – A Big No! It isn’t about throwing stones at every barking dog. It is about keeping up your self respect and not letting anyone else trample you. If you entertain them today, many more will join. You will end up feeling worthless. So, when they pass a comment that brings your confidence level down, boost it up by telling them that you feel wonderful this way. They will stop in a while.
- Keep believing. Once, you begin to believe, you wouldn’t let others trample you. When they find the fire in you, they will stop once and for all. In the process, you might lose a couple of fake friends. But, the important part is, you will have the most important person with you, hale and hearty: YOU!
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